Long distance relationships are tough for everyone – some of the greatest aspects of a relationship revolve around being together in the same room at the same time. Still, that doesn’t mean LDRs can’t last nor does it mean you can’t have plenty of fun while you’re separated.
Include Each Other In Everything
There will be times one of you is going to go out with friends at night and be unavailable to chat or text – that’s fine, let it happen. That doesn’t mean one of you needs to be excluded from the other’s life, though. It’s important to include each other in all the big things, and that includes in making big decisions. Don’t let distance shut anyone out of a typical relationship process.
This is probably the biggest issue that people in a long distance relationship struggle with. It’s easy to feel insecure about your loved one being out, living a normal life that you aren’t any part of. It’s really important that you learn how to trust each other, without trust a relationship is nothing.
Whether it’s a care package of local treats they love and miss or a letter that you’ve sent through snail mail. Everyone loves to feel valued, and while we all have different love languages – gifts let your partner know that you care and that they are in your thoughts. So, make those gifts thoughtful.
Learn Your Love Language
Speaking of love languages, both of you should take the quiz and use this information to adapt to your relationship.
Play 20 Questions
Why not get to know each other better then next time you’re on video chat? They can be as tame or as saucy as you like, but it’s a great way to create openness and honesty in your relationship.
The couple that games together… thanks to the internet you can game together live. Whether you both love Call of Duty or you’d prefer to meet up in Second Life, it’s a great way to have fun together, indulge a hobby, and still, spend time with each other.
Whether it’s to see over video chat or you’re finally going to see each other in person again – take advantage of the incredible discounts available and get yourself (or your partner) something sassy to wear to keep things exciting in the bedroom (or the chat room).
Nothing is better than spending time together in person, so if you have the funds to do so, why not make a surprise visit to spice things up? What better surprise to send than yourself?
It isn’t just for the kids – words are a powerful thing, and you can use yours to light a fire underneath your partner. If you’re feeling particularly saucy you can start those texts during the working day to amp up the suspense or you can wait until you know your partner is in bed. It’s up to you, but you might be surprised at just how effective it is.
Watch Movies Together
There are apps that make it easier for you to do this together so that you’re seeing the same thing at the same time. No matter how you do it, just settle on a movie that you will both enjoy and you can make comments to each other throughout, whether you link up through an app or fire up a video chat. It doesn’t really matter how you do it, it just allows you to be a regular couple again.
Boost Their Mood
If your partner was upset after a bad day and lived nearby, what would you do? You would probably rush over, order their favorite food, and offer them support and cuddles, right? You might not be able to show up at their door when you’re in a long distance relationship, but you can still have a surprise delivered in the form of their favorite food. Don’t let distance prevent you from being supportive.
Dancing in the Dark
You might be too shy to get too racy over video chat, but that doesn’t mean you can’t hit the lights and get a little more intimate than usual. It will definitely spice up your video chat and it means you can be a little more free to experiment.
If you’re in the same time zone you can sit down to dinner together. Prepare (or order) the same type of meal and video chat over your dinner plate. If you’re not in the same time zone you can share the meal that is most appropriate for your time. It’s just another little thing that couples do that you probably miss being able to do with your loved one. Use technology to your advantage.
There are plenty of incredible stories about people who managed to maintain a healthy relationship while living separately for years. Provided you are dedicated to keeping things exciting in each other’s absence and you’re committed to each other – your LDR can be just as fulfilling as a local one.